How to Stop Feeding Your Victim Mentality

How to Stop Feeding Your Victim Mentality

Born of trauma, loss, chaos, and injustice, the Victim mentality often feels like a strange form of justice or protection. It can cause you to become so self-focused and defensive that you incrementally push others away. The Victim Identity continually seeks attention...
The Ninefold Path of Jesus – Trust

The Ninefold Path of Jesus – Trust

Imagine being significantly free of worry and anxiety. What would that be like? Deep peace. Sound sleep. Full attention. Is that a quality of life you desire? Do you think it’s possible? In the teaching on the hill Jesus said, “Do not worry about your life.” The...
6 Ways (Minus 3) to Know God Is in Your Life

6 Ways (Minus 3) to Know God Is in Your Life

My good friend Jason used to be an outstanding pastor and preacher. After a church split and two other hard experiences, though, Jason no longer felt God was in His life.  “God,” Jason prayed, “if You are real, say something. I need to hear You speak to me.” Jason...
Comparison Games

Comparison Games

After a year of social distancing, isolation at home and all the overarching pandemic woes, most of us are itching for a proper summer vacation. Dreaming about returning to that holiday ritual, my wife, Amy, recently found an old picture of me on the beach in San...
Recruiting the JV Squad 

Recruiting the JV Squad 

It’s recess on the blacktop back in elementary school and all the kids are lined up eagerly awaiting your finger to point in their direction. While their self-esteem hangs delicately in the balance, the only thing on your mind is winning. That’s the job of the captain...
The Creed

The Creed

Every Sunday, my church recites the Nicene Creed during the worship service. Sometimes, I wonder why. True, the ancient words summon a succession of images in the mind, often powerful, treasured pictures. But am I aware of what this act means as I participate in the...
Which Truth?

Which Truth?

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. – Proverbs 4:23 (NLT) Have you ever stopped to think about WHY we need to guard our hearts…and, more importantly, what we need to guard them from? To explain this, we need to talk...
How did you “join” your church?

How did you “join” your church?

I grew up in a traditional church in small-town Texas and still remember people joining that church. Whether after a year or on their first Sunday, people walked the red-carpet aisle during the final hymn, and chatted with the pastor for a moment. The pastor announced...